by Doc Love
Published:
Friday, February 10, 2012
Doc Love: The Real Reason She Broke Up With You
<a href="http://ca.askmen.com/dating/doclove_700/798_why-she-broke-up-with-me.html"> <img src="http://images.askmen.com/dating/doclove_700/798_why-she-broke-up-with-me-1057384-flash.jpg" alt="Credit: dating/doclove_700/798_why-she-broke-up-with-me-1057384-flash.jpg" /></a><br /> <em>This week, Doc Love, author of <a target="_blank"href="http://www.askmen.com/products/doclove/">"TheSystem,"</a> explains how women can lose interest over time. </em><h3>Reader Question<em></em></h3>Hey Doc, I’m having a confusing andfrustrating week due to my <ahref="http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_600/666_doc-love-deal-with-a-breakup.html">breakup</a>with Scarlett. I’m 27 and she’s 21, and we’ve known each other for five years, but we’ve only been dating for two months. I admire your coaching, and Iintend to buy your book. Before dating me, Scarlett had afour-year relationship that she broke off because she felt that it wasn’t goinganywhere. We clicked completely and found that we shared lots of interests, had greatchemistry, cared for one another, and pretty much were compatible in every way. The problems began when I was invited to her aunt’s house for dinner. Scarlettshowed up late and <ahref="http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_500/580_doc-love-hot-and-cold.html">actedextremely cold</a> to me. This was a side of her I never saw before. I kept to myselfmost of the night because I felt stranded in an awkward position. Finally she sat me downin a secluded room and told me that she was breaking up with me because she couldn’t see a future for us. She threw in that I don’t motivate her enoughand she felt that we were going to end up being lazy, fat people on the couch. (By theway, neither of us is overweight, and I go to the gym faithfully.) She then commentedthat we are not compatible and that nothing can fix it. I told her I wasn’taccepting that answer because she wasn’t making sense. She then commented that Iwas the greatest but she’s not, and that I should find someone else. My heart wasbroken. After about a week I sent her an emailasking her to clarify the reason she suddenly broke up with me. I told her that I waswilling to work on any issues we might have if she’s willing to and that I feltthat we really had something awesome going. I asked her to think about it and to get back to me. Through mutual friends I know she didn’t go back to her ex.A few days later Scarlett replied that she just felt weweren’t compatible but gave no reason why. She added that maybe we could be friends again or possibly go back to what we had. Doc, I’m totally lost. Our relationship was great. I kept Scarlett interested, <a href="http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_700/777_being-needy.html">Iwasn’t needy</a> and I didn’t see any compatibility issues. I really likeScarlett and would love to continue dating her, but I just don’t understand herpoint of view. Is she still hung up on her ex? Why did she suddenly turn cold on me? Isshe confused about what she really wants in a relationship? Am I the problem? Whycouldn’t she have talked to me about these issues before breaking myheart? <strong>Gibby - who feels likecrying</strong><h2>doc love’s response</h2>Hi Gibby, The first problem you’ve gotis that you’re involved with 21-year-old girl. And if you knew my book -- which youdon’t -- you’d understand that between the ages of 18 to 22,girls fall in and out of love every five minutes. You should bedating a 24-to-27-year-old. When Scarlett froze you out at heraunt’s house, you should have just walked out. You should have thanked the lady forher hospitality and hit the bricks. Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love from East L.A. says,“Once I’m dissed, I walk.” When Scarlett announced that she saw no future for the two of you, you should have said,“You know, that’s exactly what I was thinking,” and added, “Wehad a great run.” Then you should have got up and walked straight out and nevertalked to her again. Then, most importantly, you should have immediately gotten my book-- which you don’t have, and which you just “might” buy -- and figuredout why Scarlett dumped you.<em>Doc Love continues, next...</em> <p> <a href="http://ca.askmen.com/dating/doclove_700/798_why-she-broke-up-with-me.html">Continue Reading</a> </p>
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